Our days can be routine, all blending together.
But despite that, at least once a day we call out for something, usually for change.
Little things: “Do we have to have chicken again?”
Big things: “Why can’t I save more money?”
Gigantic things: “I just can’t live like this any more.”
Our human needs rise to the surface and we ask the saleswoman, “Where is the macaroni, I’ve looked down this entire aisle.”
or our teenager, “Son, why can’t you be on time? Can’t you do this for me just once?”
And we might even implore God or Spirit or the universe, “Please help me get through this. Please.”
This can be so many things—a job interview, an illness, an argument, a test, a day packed with meetings and chores.
Life runs the gamut. Life delivers days filled with small tasks that wear us out; and life can hit us hard with a scary health diagnosis or job and money issues that make everything else seem small and unnecessary.
But—every day each one of us calls out for something.
Some of the things we need can be solved quickly. Many cannot. Some of our needs would enhance life, but are not serious issues. Some are serious, life and death—a cancer diagnosis that requires the best care; a new job that prevents foreclosure on our home and food for our family.
What do we do when we find ourselves crying out for this need over and over?
1. do research and get information;
You ask a clerk where the macaroni is; you also ask and discover just what Chronic Lymphocytic Leukemia is or what’s the best procedure for prostate cancer. You research investments, real estate agents, education that retools you for a new job, the pitfalls and positives of early retirement. You search for information, then file it in a folder, a computer, your desk.
2. evaluate your research in light of your own personal situation, ie know yourself;
You might be calling out for an amazing life adventure, but you can’t climb Mt. Everest if you know you’re afraid of heights. Go through your research selecting the options that truly work for you and your situation.
3. make decisions based on what’s best for you and those close to you;
This can be the hardest step. A new job might require a move that will upset the lives of your working spouse and children in school. Investments might mean a change in lifestyle in order to put that money away. Cancer treatments might mean traveling to a clinical trial that upsets family life.
4. find a counselor or mentor to advise and guide you;
When we find ourselves crying out for something over and over, it’s certainly time to get help. This last step often means the difference between giving up and walking away from something that makes a huge difference in our lives, and hanging in there to make that change happen.
Everyone can remember an event in his/her life when we called out for help and a friend, pastor, teacher, co-worker, doctor was there to comfort and advise and help us make a decision, find our way, insert the necessary change into our lives.
Final thought—maybe in an hour the phone will ring or you’ll get a text or an email and someone will be calling out to YOU to be that mentor, that counselor, that guide.
5. ANSWER the call! Helping someone else always helps you.