Marie Kondo has nothing on me, except two best-selling books about TIDYING UP, some great ideas AND a ton of money. But the solid, basic urge to tidy and keep things in order—well I’ll fight her out for that honor.
MY MANTRA—or, How I Get Things Done
From the very beginning, Mom said I would toddle around our house, bend over with my butt in the air—to straighten her area rugs. Then in high school, I became our house cleaner. My mom worked full time and after a while things got a little un-tidy, not her fault. My TIDY-UP GENE went into overdrive and I created my list. It’s simple and has been expanded over the years. I’d love to know what Marie Kondo would say about it.
MY LIST reminds me to do certain things EVERY DAY, and it reminds me to do other things when needed. Here it is:
- Loads of wash, linens—includes making beds and tidying bedrooms;
- Ironing, odds and ends—not much to iron, this category has morphed into checking items in the guest bedroom: clothing we no longer wear; shopping items that need to be returned; gifts to wrap; it’s a catchall for things I need to make a decision about—”that throw rug that really doesn’t work.” Marie Kondo might say it’s the room for things that no longer “spark joy.”
- Grocery shopping—ongoing whether it’s a major order or a gallon of milk. Preparing meals goes here, but my husband now does most of the cooking. I cleanup.
- Cleaning—my husband helps, but I’m the duster, the tidier, the * see more below.
- Yard work, plants. When I lived in Iowa and Chicago this could be forgotten for many months!
- Correspondence and projects—this last is where I am now. When the above five have been mentally checked off or completed, I spend the rest of my day here. At the moment I’m writing this blog post; then I’ll take up other writing projects.
HOW I USE MY LIST…
I run through the list twice a day—once to see where I am, and at the end of the day to satisfy that I’ve accomplished something. Of course, life intrudes, the list goes away when we have visitors or travel or the general chaos of life takes over. But I can always start fresh the next day or whenever my days are more normal. And I always strive to catch up. That blessing is called peace and calm and I wish it for everyone.
KONDO’S FOCUS: What to Keep Not What to Throw Out
Psychologist Emily Deans, MD, read Kondo’s book and was impressed with her method that states that we should PURGE FIRST. Deans stresses that it’s much better to focus on what to keep, instead of what to throw out. She writes:
By building her method around that simple decision with the goal of having a house filled with only those things that bring you joy, all the sudden you are purging very large and meaningful amounts…it puts into place a whole new life philosophy about getting more stuff. Unless you *love* it, don’t bring it into the house. I’m hopeful the children (of our society) will pick this up so they don’t fall into the trap of clutter, and that they appreciate having a few well-loved items rather than lots of whatever. I hope they spend their money (in general) on experience, not things.
CHECK OUT MY LEAD-IN PHOTO
I love the quote from William Morris, a famous English designer, and discovered I have used that quote before! He founded the business of Morris, Marshall & Faulkner in 1864, a business dedicated to the decorative arts. Morris created and designed tapestries, wallpaper, fabrics, stained glass windows and furniture. His designs would often crowd a given space with undulating lines, colors of all hues and flora and fauna. Below is a wallpaper he designed which he named: Strawberry Thief.
But again, his quote is one that Marie Kondo might have been thinking about when she created her SPARK JOY concept.
Have nothing in your houses which you do not know to be useful or believe to be beautiful. William Morris
MOVING, DOWNSIZING and the ROLE of ENHANCER *
My husband and I have moved six times. Our first home was a small townhouse that we rented and filled with second-hand furniture. Then we purchased a track home. When my mother moved out of our family home, she generously gave us a piano, book cases and helped us purchase a dining room set from an old friend. Bottom line, what we have always surrounded ourselves with are old and used, treasured and sturdy—they have to be. They are very useful and they SPARK JOY.
MOVING AND YOUR “STUFF”
I find it fulfilling to be able to realize that I no longer need a thing and that someone else may need it. That supports my tidy-up gene and after the fires in our area, we donated bags of clothing and kitchen items.
My bottom line might now live in the words of William Morris. The last move we made from Iowa to California demanded we give away probably a third or more of what filled our large home. Sometimes I realize that I gave away something I wish I’d kept. My husband likes to say IT’S JUST STUFF.
Yes, there’s truth in that, and having people in your life to love is truly what counts. But like Marie Kondo, I believe if we are able to have and to keep some things in our rooms our homes that Spark Joy, we should. As Keats wrote in his poem, Endymion: A thing of beauty is a joy forever.
I’ll hold close the words of William Morris when trying to decide what to give away. If an object does not possess beauty or usefulness to me, it just might offer that to someone else.
Photo credit: Real Simple Magazine and William Morris site.